May 09

Why is it that, next to losing your job, a performance review is probably the least eagerly anticipated event in the office, both for managers and employees. Nobody enjoys giving or receiving difficult feedback but these conversations don’t need to be as stressful as they so often are.

Communicating Feedback Effectively

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The New York Times recently reported on research conducted by Google in a quest to find the characteristics of good managers. They analysed performance reviews, feedback surveys and other reports which led to a list of eight good behaviours for successful managers.

The first of these good behaviours is the ability to deliver constructive, balanced feedback.

Why feedback alone doesn’t work

Studies have shown that performance reviews rarely result in improved performance. While positive feedback is enjoyable, it doesn’t necessarily improve performance. Negative feedback also has little affect on performance or can make things worse.

It has been suggested that this is because rather than record our objective experience of the world, our minds create a subjective version of events. So, managers tend to see things one way and employees another, particularly when it comes to shortfalls in performance and the feedback we use to address these gaps. A positive self-image is crucial to our own well-being and so feedback in conflict with this creates an uncomfortable phenomena that psychologists call cognitive dissonance. We are then motivated to do everything we can to reduce the dissonance and we take the path of least resistance.

We could admit we’re just not as good as we thought we were but it’s much easier to rationalise or discount the feedback instead. So we either blame the shortfall in performance on factors beyond our control, like defective customers, or we discount the source of the feedback and blame our problems on our managers.

Let the employee drive the discussion

As a manager you can overcome these perceptual conflicts by reversing the traditional roles.

1. Let the employee drive the discussion by asking, rather than telling, when it comes to both performance feedback and goal setting.

2. Have your employees complete their own appraisal prior to the review meeting. Then start the discussion not with your evaluation of their performance, but with the question, “How did you do last year?” The right questions enable people to come to terms with the message and avoids potential misinterpretation.

3. Where there are performance shortfalls, ask your employees to suggest ways to address them. Not only will they have interesting ideas, they will also be far more willing to own them and take responsibility for their success. The same psychological dynamic holds true when employees generate their own objectives.

This isn’t turning the asylum over to the inmates. It is still your prerogative to decide if performance evaluation, development plans or objectives are appropriate. When you make your decision, however, it only makes sense to incorporate the employee’s view.

Not only does this leverage the way the mind works, it is a much easier and less stressful way to manage. The responsibility for managing performance is placed where it belongs — on the employee. The manager is no longer the driver, but is the facilitator or coach. This doesn’t mean that you don’t hold people rigorously accountable for results. In fact, it’s much easier when they’re the ones setting the objectives and evaluating performance.

© Communicaid Group Ltd. 2011

May 05

If you are a manager responsible for a change project, you will know that people are likely to be your biggest challenge.  Why is this?  Because taking people through change usually involves dealing with emotions. Yet, rather than trying to understand their people’s emotional reactions and communicate accordingly, many managers we meet push against any resistance they meet focusing on facts and opinions.

Communicating Change

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Why the resistance?

Even if we know change is needed, as humans we naturally feel resistant when asked to give up what we are used to or to step outside our comfort zone.  As with any potential threat, our emotional reactions come in to play to protect us.  And the more we feel pressured, the more we are likely to resist.

Unfortunately, using cold facts or threats to try to communicate the change argument in a logical way does not quell the resistant emotions. In fact it often ends up as a sub-conscious battle about ‘who is right’, a de-facto power struggle, with managers trying to trump concerns with data and facts.

People who have been through a series of change initiatives that have failed to work are often frustrated and cynical. Feelings of frustration breed defensive or attacking behaviour and get in the way of the open and collaborative attitude you want. The challenge then is to begin gradually to move people from the fear of change towards feelings of excitement and commitment.

Give over your power

If we want our people to feel supported through a change process and begin to open to more positive emotions, we need to find a way of engaging with them and give them power.

Your intention may be to communicate clearly and efficiently, but be sure you are not doing it in a way that contradicts or dismisses peoples’ ideas, excludes others from important conversations, or indirectly points fingers at a few making them feel left out, ignored or blamed?

Emotions are critical here and you need to ask yourself what has created them.  What experiences have led to these feelings?

Action steps to engage people

In order to move change forward you need both an effective tactical plan and a way of generating positive momentum and feelings among your people.

Change is a gradual process and you are unlikely to get agreement from everyone straight away.  Aim for getting ‘enough’ buy-in to get things moving, and assume that most people do want to be part of a new, more positive conversation about your organisation’s future.

Here are a number of ways to begin. Depending on your circumstances you will need to vary the mix and timing of some of these actions.

1. Ask the right questions and listen to the answers

You need to get a clear picture of what is driving reality on the ground by getting out among your people. Find out what they need and what is most important to them.

2. Create hope with a new vision for the future

  • Start by tuning into your own emotions around what you have found out and then manage your own reaction
  • Gather a core group of change champions who understand the positive intentions and support the possibility of change
  • Actively acknowledge and validate all the feelings and reactions, however difficult
  • Remind them why the change is important and how it aligns with your organisation or team’s purpose.  Make sure what you say resonates at both an emotional and logical level

3. Build momentum toward real buy in

  • Create a team of change leaders, designers and supporters who can build excitement
  • Draft a plan with an end vision, goal, key steps and how you will measure success
  • Expand the circle by increasing ownership, gathering feedback, co-creating and refining the plan

4. Offer others the chance to commit

  • Communicate the plan and invite people to be involved. Remind them they are needed and have a role
  • Help them understand costs, benefits and impact
  • Clarify commitment by defining roles and expectations both on a tactical and emotional level

Change can be one of the hardest messages to communicate which is why many organisations invest in targeted executive coaching and communication skills training programmes to help their leaders and managers to develop their communication skills to deliver key messages sensitively but effectively.

© Communicaid Group Ltd. 2011

Apr 27

A recent article in the New York Times has argued that the telephone is rapidly becoming obsolete and the days of making spontaneous phone calls are over. Whether for personal or professional reasons it is becoming increasingly rare to just pick up the phone and give someone a call to talk something through or even ask a quick question. Increasingly we now exchange and update our contacts using email, texts, instant message or Facebook updates.

The Death of the Phone Call? effective communication

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Even at work, it seems a shame that communication is becoming purely transactional and we no longer use ‘voice time’ to get to know and understand our counterparts better. The telephone can be an interruption but it is also much quicker and more effective for quick questions or clarifications. Voice mail and caller ID now help us to manage our time and allow us to avoid certain calls until later if we are working on an important project and do not want to be interrupted. As with any other communication channel the secret is to know when and how to use the telephone most effectively. Bear in mind that it is often the personal contact of spontaneous phone calls that clients and other stakeholders value most when working with large organisations.

Good communicators tend to build more effective and long lasting relationships than those who don’t pay attention to how they communicate – and these relationships are often crucial to the success of their organisation. Effective communication is not only the style and language we use but it also involves selecting the right communication channel and knowing when to focus purely on a quick transactional message and when to take the time to develop the relationship.

Forward thinking organisations recognise that the ability of their employees to communicate effectively is just as valuable as the technical expertise that they offer and will invest in communication skills training programmes to ensure their staff no when and how to communicate most appropriately.

© Communicaid Group Ltd. 2011

Feb 28

The Guardian has recently highlighted the importance of influencing and negotiating skills for achieving promotion and career progression. And in fact, influencing is a crucial skill in so many aspects of modern working life whether you are working in cross-functional teams, managing external supplier relationships or networking with potential new clients. We often have to persuade and influence those over whom we have no real authority.

The Art of Influencing, effective communication, negotiating and influencing

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A subtle, empathetic approach is recommended rather than a more direct or forceful style. If you can give the other party the impression that you have met them half way or further, that they have bought into or even come up with the idea themselves you will get real support and longer lasting results. Successful influencing is about making a connection and appealing to the heart as well as the head. It is about identifying personal triggers and adapting your style to others’ to get the best results from the people you are trying to influence. A combination of communication and interpersonal skills will help you to get the results you need. Below are some practical hints to help develop your powers of influencing whether you need a decision from your boss, an “awkward” peer to help you or a client to accept your new prices.

Create rapport with the person you are trying to influence – it may sound like common sense but if they like and trust you there is a greater possibility that you will be able to persuade them

Listen and show you are listening. If someone feels valued they are more likely to be persuaded to your point of view

Ask the right questions – use questioning techniques to lead people towards the answers you want

Be Aware of Body Language and mirror the other person’s body language to create better rapport

Sell the Benefits of your argument to the other person and try to see your position from their perspective

Be relaxed – a relaxed and natural demeanour is more likely to achieve a successful outcome rather than an emotional or demanding approach. Demonstrating a natural confidence will help to persuade others that your ideas are good

Invest your Time – influencing isn’t a quick fix. It can take time to develop empathy and awareness but you are more likely to get what you want if you play a long game

The art of influencing doesn’t come naturally to everyone and many professionals who would like to be better perceived by those they work with and to get better results from their business relationships invest in influencing and negotiating skills courses to ensure success.

© Communicaid Group Ltd. 2011

Feb 11

Recently, you can’t seem to turn on the TV without coming across programmes putting to right the customer service skills of restaurants, hotels or retail operations. The BBC, for example, has renowned chef, Michel Roux and fashion guru, Mary Portas cracking the whip on the catering and retail sectors.

Communication Skills for Customer Service, Communication skills,

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Excellent customer service is all about communication. Demonstrating to our customers that we are listening to them and value their feedback, combined with the ability to convey clear messages with warmth and empathy will enhance our customers’ experience, however transitory. Basic principles such as making your customer feel at ease, listening attentively or knowing when to say sorry can all make the difference and, more importantly, make our customers feel that they are important to us. Research shows that happy customers not only come back but also tell other people to come and try us out! So why do some many organisations, be they retail outfits, restaurants or large banks get it so wrong and so often? Very often the answer is in the communication skills training that they provide their staff and the ongoing coaching and support that ensures standards are kept high.

The real secret to successful communication lies in the ability to gauge your customer’s own communication style and expectations and then to mirror and respond appropriately. For example, when dealing with a customer on the telephone, you may find that some customers require more than just an answer to their issue but also wish to make “small talk”. Others, however, are not interested whatsoever and want their transaction dealt with quickly and efficiently. Equally, it is important to think about how you address your customer, use humour or even deal with complaints.

Some people are instinctively more attuned communicators than others but this doesn’t mean that the relevant skills cannot be developed. Many organisations now provide communication skills training courses for their customer service teams which can cover everything from basic communication techniques through to more advanced empathy skills programmes.

© Communicaid Group Ltd. 2011

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